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Is Conversation Becoming the Next Dinosaur?

What are the negative effects of technology? Poor relationships.

Social media and other forms of technological communication strip away the ability to have a decent face to face conversation. Facebook, Twitter and Linked-In broaden your network, but provides minimal depth of community.

Your brain sharpens with experience, so if your definition of friendship lies behind a computer screen, that becomes your context. Computers can’t read emotion and facial recognition, so the more time you spend on your laptop and texting, the less socially aware and empathetic you become.

My work is primarily with Gen Y/Millennials and what I notice is they are highly educated, but lack people skills. They’ve been taught instant gratification, but the problem is relationships don’t work like that. We are getting closer to the days of eHarmony as the way to meet others because there’s too much risk in real life dating.

Instead of getting depressed, here are some proactive ways to improve your interpersonal skills:

  • Practice having conversations with family members and friends
  • Attend networking events and focus on getting to know one or two people well
  • Invite a social media contact to grab coffee together

Let’s not let the “art of conversation” become extinct. Social media and technology is not the enemy (I’d be a hypocrite because I use them), but merely a means to an end. Don’t substitute “contacts” for relationships.

Business is relationships. Your network is your net worth!

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9 Comments

  • Jennifer Rai

    So true Scott. I have to take away my daughter’s ipod or she will text and ‘facetime’ her way through dinner!

  • Good thoughts here. You’re right, without real contact you lose the ability to read people and to figure out how to make an impression and then build a good relationship.

  • Well said, my friend — let’s encourage and enhance the dynamic live dance! There is no substitute for the subtle art of face-to-face exchange in understanding, and no better classroom to teach us why we think we are here :)

  • Scott,

    Even worse are companies that have setup all communications via a software medium. The time it takes to understand the request received often takes much longer than having a a quick face to face.

  • This article is right on the money, Scott. Teenagers’ lives are ruled by their cell phones – most teens sleep with them! Managing their use in classroom is a nightmare. What will happen to kids to grow up without knowing how to de-stress by disengaging, with no value for quiet contemplation? How will they attend to the needs of the workplace – or worse, to their own children? I don’t think we understand the implications for our society as a whole.

  • It’s very important to know people with real contact but also we have “mistakes” about quality of people than we are thinking that we know perfectly.

    If we talk with somebody by net in some times we can to act more naturally than in a life contact, principally in ours first contacts.

    Regards

  • It’s an important topic to consider. Trained as both a psychologist and professional mediator, I see the effects when I see private clients, couples and when I work with business teams. They have great problems with sustaining a conversation. They may be able to begin it with pleasantries, but sustaining it? Not so much. For people in the workplace to resolve relationship problems and create collaborative teams, they have to be able to see relationship as more than a series of short responses. Those using these new technologies have conversations similar to skipping rocks on a lake, three one-word responses and then it all goes under!

    Training IT teams, I’ve known people who were much more comfortable having a relationship with their monitor than the person in the next cubicle. They benefit from learning to have collaborative conversations. Obviously, there is much to talk about here. Thanks for opening the conversation.

  • The contents of the article are so relevant and true

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