Today, I spoke with a friend who has a 12 year-old daughter. When the daughter was talking to him the other night, she asked if she could ask a question. He, of course, said sure. She proceeded to tell him that she received an A on a math test at school, but the other kids received Cs on the same test. So the kids in the class weren’t happy with her because she caused them to not be graded on a sliding scale where if everyone received a C they told her that they would all receive As. She was obviously very confused by all of this. She worked hard to study and get an A and the other kids obviously didn’t do the work required to receive the same grade. Even though they didn’t do the work, they still thought they should get an A if most of the rest of the kids received the same grade – all except my friend’s daughter who actually received an A without having to be graded on a curve.
The real world certainly doesn’t work like this so why should we send messages to kids that that it is okay to get a C if everyone else does? This 12-year old did the work to get an A and the other children didn’t.
With work hard, we like to think we get rewarded. Why would someone who didn’t work as hard get
the same reward? They shouldn’t. It’s like Obama talking about spreading the wealth. When you work hard to get to where you are today, why should you spread the wealth to others who haven’t worked as hard? It just isn’t fair nor is it reality. What messages are we sending our children? What messages should we be sending our children that will help prepare them for the real world? What messages should we be sending each other about doing the work required to achieve personal and professional goals? Life isn’t easy for most of us, but we can attain anything we set our minds to, if we want it badly enough to
do the work required. Focus on you and what you can control so you can achieve what you truly want in life.
Anne M. Bachrach is known as The Accountability Coach™. She has 23 years of experience training and coaching. The objective is to work less, make more money, and have a more balanced life. Anne is the author of the book, Excuses Don’t Count; Results Rule!, and Live Life with No Regrets; How the Choices We Make Impact Our Lives. Go to http://www.accountabilitycoach.com/landing/ and get 3 FREE gifts including a special report on 10 Power Tips for Getting Focused, Organized, and Achieving Your Goals Now. Join the FREE Silver Inner Circle Membership today and receive 10% off on all products and services, in addition to having access to assessments and resources to help you achieve your goals so you can experience a more balanced and successful life (http://www.accountabilitycoach.com/coaching-store/inner-circle-store/).
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